My Big, Fat Macedonian Wedding
Not even joblessness and poverty deter Macedonians from splurging on expensive parties. Guest lists of 500 are undistinguished, and families go into debt
by Ljubica Grozdanovska
Mare Davitkovska is planning for around 200 guests when her son is married later this month. It is a modest celebration by Macedonian standards, a country where prepare thoroughly and conspicuously gorgeous weddings are a necessary luxury for many people.
“This caused a lot of problems because restaurants wouldn’t hold such a small celebration, since most of them require a minimum of 250 guests,” Davitkovska says.
Guest lists of 500 or more are common, and through restaurants charging 7 to 15 euros for person, the cost adds up quickly. Families depart into debt for years to make compensation despite them, although the investment may pay off over the long term — Macedonia has one of Europe’s lowest divorce rates.
“We calculate upon to overlay moiety of the whole celebration from our savings, and the other half with a bank loan,” says Davitkovska, whose son Branko is to be married on 27 June.
Davitkovska earns a monthly hire of around 300 euros, and her husband is unemployed. Even so, a bigger wedding party is a practical solution.
“If we don’t do it, we’ll have existence forced to have guests almost every night for a year maybe. Everybody will want to visit and rejoice by us, so we’ll always have to have something to eat, snacks and drinks. It will require to be paid us much more,” she explains.
Branko Davitkovski, 27, says he and his fiancée didn’t want a traditionally huge party.
“We planned to celebrate our marriage with luncheon with our parents and our closest relatives and with a small party for our friends. But our parents insisted on a huge wedding,” he says.
A CHANCE TO FORGET
In addition to the cake, photographers, espousals dress, gold jewelry according to the bride, and perhaps a limousine or even messages dropped from an airplane, many wedding planners have to pack because of two further expenses.
The cost for the band, an diffusible part of any bulky assembly, ranges from 350 up to several thousand euros. Less expensive, goal none less important to numerous company Macedonians, is the fee instead of one Orthodox priest. The services of a single clergyman require to be paid about 30 euros, only often three or five priests officiate at a temple wedding. A political marriage license, adhering the other pass by hand, costs just 2.5 euros.
The usage of citizens of one of southeastern Europe’s weakest economies to lay out the equivalent of several years’ salary toward a party is not so repugnant at the same time that it may seem, says Aleksandra Filipovska, a sociologist from Skopje.
“It seems that they see these occasions as their one opportunity to forget all over saving money and paying the bills, unlike most of the time,” she says.
“Most parents are unable to cover the costs of a massive observance, so they advance to a bank. The loans they take out will be a burden for at least the next couple of years. But they live with the motto you only live once,’” Filipovska says.
Nearly 30 percent of Macedonians be supported in poverty, according to UNICEF, and the inhabitants of 2 a thousand thousand suffers from a startling 35-percent unemployment rate. The quality of health care and education for children is eroding in Macedonia, creating conditions that a February UNICEF report calls “unacceptable.”
But all linguistic and religious communities in the Macedonian ethnic mosaic aren’t miserly when it comes to weddings, although there are no estimates of how many couples of the approximately 15,000 who marry each year have expensive bridal parties. Often, the expense is borne by a male “gastarbeiter” who returns home from Western Europe or North America to marry a local woman.
Marriage to a gastarbeiter brings higher status. At least, that’s what Ajnet Mustafovska thinks. The 19-year-old from the incorporated town of Bitola is engaged to the son of an emigrant in Australia.
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